My best friend, Emily Kapral, said something beautiful yesterday. As we were having one of those daily life changing talks we have that most have once a year she stunned me and I had to even stop to think about her words.
She said something along the lines of, "I wouldn't want to get married now because I don't know enough about myself. I want to be comfortable enough to just share who I am completely with someone."
How lovely a thought that is. For so long I've always assumed you get married and figure out who you are with that person. Together you figure yourself out. But I like her way much better.
Love is about sharing exactly who you are with someone who loves you enough to love every part of you. It isn't that thing you do when you feel alone or confused or need to figure something out. You don't love to find yourself you find yourself and then love. It's just plain and simple. It's merely taking yourself and letting someone see every tattered and dusty corner of your soul.
except, if you wait until you know EXACTLY who you are, you'll never ever get married. Know enough about yourself to be comfortable sharing yourself, but then don't freak out if you get married and then discover that this new life brings out things in you that you didn't know were there, and never would have known without being in that circumstance.
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